A Queer Was Here

A Beginner's Guide to All Things Queer... in 10 Minutes or Less
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Dec 1, 2016

"Types of Polyamory" discusses the meaning of polyamory, busts the "no jealousy" myth, and discusses eight common types of polyamory.

Find the articles mentioned in the episode below:

The Short Instructional Manifesto for Relationship Anarchy

Relationship Anarchy Takes the Judgement Out of Love

Find the books mentioned in the episode below:

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

Nov 1, 2016

“Sexual Orientation vs Romantic Orientation vs Aesthetic Attraction” defines the terms and how they interact, providing an easy framework for understanding the meaning of each. It is followed by a poem from my first book (titled “Stardust”).

Oct 16, 2016

“Gender and Bathrooms” peels back the lid on the fear that trans individuals often face when choosing a bathroom, and explains how you can help with that fear.

Here’s a link to the gender-neutral bathroom finder mentioned in the podcast: REFUGE Restrooms.

Oct 1, 2016

This episode of “A Queer Was Here” is on Aromantic Basics, and defines the word “aromantic”, discusses what romantic feelings are, and talks about the difference between romance and sexuality and the many types of love.

For further resources, you can find my website here.

Sep 17, 2016

My little brother was the first to call me a gentleman, and my eyes lit up like electricity. I’d just discovered that I liked male pronouns, but I hadn’t yet realized what a powerful word gentleman could be. It’s more than just a word for a man. It’s praise.

My gender is still far from simple, but there’s something undoubtedly delightful about the combination of “gentle” and “man”. It implies that the typically underrated quality of gentleness in males is in fact something to aspire to, not mock. And the way it feels in the mouth as my tongue rolls out the word… It’s beautiful.

It has such exquisite meaning, too. It brings to mind holding open doors and pulling out chairs and taking the time to listen. I can’t say I’m a perfect listener, but these are things I desire to be.

Perhaps, after all, gentleman is simply an ideal that leaves us striving to better ourselves, and isn’t that why we are here? I want to be a gentleman in the fullest sense of the word: not just on Tuesdays, or with someone I love, but always.

Call me a gentleman only when I’ve earned it, but call me a gentleman.